How do I stay motivated

How do I stay motivated?

Forget about motivation entirely.

It doesn’t work.
It’s largely a scam created to sell seminar tickets and inflate people’s self esteem and state temporarily in much the same way a mind altering drug does.
This isn’t to say that the feeling of motivation is inherently negative.
It’s not.
But relying on motivation is a surefire recipe for failure.
Here’s the deal… You will NOT always feel motivated.
In fact, I’d argue you’ll only feel motivated about 20% of the time.
And if you let your feelings dictate your actions instead of allowing your vision to dictate your actions… You’re screwed.
So what should you do instead?
The answer is surprisingly simple.
1.
Get Accountable to Someone You Respect

If you want to live your best life and achieve your biggest goals, you don’t need motivation, you need accountability.
Simply put, most of us don’t value ourselves enough (at least not yet) to be able to stay disciplined over the long haul.
Without an outside force pushing us towards success, we’ll quickly backslide into our old habits and routines.
However, when you have someone such as a friend, coach, or mentor who you RESPECT (it won’t work otherwise) holding you accountable to your goals you’re much less likely to screw up.
I highly recommend that you create a daily accountability agreement with someone you respect.
If your goal is to lose 15 lbs.
agree to send your accountability partner a picture from the gym 3 days a week and a daily food journal.
You’ll be much more likely to stick to your training and diet if you know that you’ll disappoint someone by failing.
2.
Create Consequences for Inaction

The real reason that most of don’t pursue our biggest goals is because there’s no consequence for inaction.
The world won’t end if you don’t start that business, lose the weight, find your dream girl/guy, or pursue whatever else you want.
And when there is no PAIN to push us towards action, we tend to stay where we are.
You can create consequences in one of two ways
The first is pretty straightforward.
If you say you’re going to do something and don’t do it, then have an accountability agreement where you are forced to send money to a charity you hate (a lot of money to a charity you hate a LOT).
To create social consequences, I recommend posting your goal or commitment on social media for the world to see.
You’re much less likely to give up if you know that all the ass holes who bullied you in high school are watching your journey and waiting for you to fail.
When you have tangible consequences for inaction, you’ll be much more likely to actually stick to your biggest goals.
3.
Use Systems to Automate Good Habits

If you want to start a new habit, then you need to limit the amount of effort required to actually perform that habit.
For example, if your new habit is drinking 1 gallon of water a day (which makes a big impact on your energy btw), then go out every Sunday and buy 7 one-gallon jugs of water and set them on your counter.
It will be easier to actually drink enough water if you’re tracking your intake and constantly reminded of your new goal.
Or, if your goal is to save more money, setup an automatic draft to take place on the days you get paid.
This will ensure that you can’t touch the money coming in and, eventually, you won’t even notice that it’s gone.
Find ways to make sticking to habits easier and you’ll be more likely to actually implement them.
4.
Remove Barriers Standing Between You and Your Goals

In the same way that your environment can help your goals it can also hurt them.
For example, if you want to stop eating sugar but your pantry is filled with Fruit Loops and Sour Patch Kids, you’re GOING to cave in when the late night munchies hit.
Instead of relying on willpower, remove the temptation entirely.
Throw out all of your sugary foods.
Donate your television.
Block the internet on your computer so you can complete deep work.
Go to a coffee shop where you won’t be distracted.
Set up your environment so that the barriers to your goals are non existent and you’ll be far more successful in the long run.
5.
Create a Personal List of Rules that You Will Live By

The final tip is to create a personal list of rules that you will live by.
Here’s an example from former podcast guest Craig Ballantyne…
Let’s say that you’re going to a party and you don’t want to drink any alcohol.
You show up at the party and the host immediately pressures you into drinking.
They tell you that they bought your favorite type of wine and put a glass in your hand the second you walk through the door.
How likely is it that you will stick to your commitment.
It’s not right?
However, if you were pregnant and literally could NOT drink alcohol without harming your child, would you even think twice about drinking?
Of course not! Because sobriety isn’t a good idea, it’s mandatory.
This is the power of personal rules.
When you set hard and fast rules for yourself about what you WILL and WILL NOT do (make it reasonable but challenging), you make your life infinitely easier.
You’ll no longer have to think about whether or not you should do something because you have rules to guide you instead of feelings.
I know it sounds lame, but I promise, it’s effective.
Hope this helps
Stay Grounded,
Andrew
Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

Let’s start with a joke.
Motivation for guys: Who has haunted you the most in your life? You forgot “Sharma jee ka beta” (Son of Sharma jee)? If you want to beat him then raise your standard.
Motivation for girls: Would you like to marry a guy whose honeymoon destination is Jaganath Puri Temple instead of Switzerland? If No, then raise your standard.
Now this is just a joke, don’t attack me in the comment section.
Take it on a lighter note.
Otherwise it will lead you to being reported and blocked.
Sorry but I am an arrogant guy.
Now let’s get serious and practical.
No one gets motivation from motivational speeches and videos.
People just read/watch it and they are motivated for milliseconds.
Then they start wasting time on Youtube or Quora for more motivation.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on these things.
No one is born genius.
Even Albert Einstein flunked in his paper.
So stop comparing yourself with others, compete with yourself.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on overthinking.
I have always mentioned in my answers that “Time” is a very important factor.
Don’t waste it.
I know you are not motivated yet.
So story time:
7 years ago in 2010, I wanted to give a certification exam of Java 1.
6 (SCJP then, now it is called OCJP).
I purchased the coupon which was of INR 6000/- approx.
If you are not earning then 6000/- is really a huge amount.
I was in college.
That coupon was valid for 1 year.
So I started preparing, but whenever I opened that book I felt sleepy.
And I didn’t want to clear my exam using dump.
6 months had been passed, but I was not able to prepare even the first chapter.
But I had full dedication.
To get motivated I wasted millions of hours on youtube watching motivational videos.
And I almost forgot that I had purchased coupon, where on the other hand, placement had also started in my college.
Then I realized the importance of certification.
I opened my mail box where exam coupon was there, when I saw expiry date it almost gave me heart attack.
only 23 days left and preparation Zero.
Kathy Sierra’s book for SCJP Preparation, almost 20 chapters were there.
I could not have completed the 1st chapter in 11 months; but I completed that book in 11 days.
Attended too many mock tests and prepared as hard as I could.
On 23rd day, I cleared that exam with 71% where the passing marks were 67%.
Story time over,
What did you learn?
All motivational speeches and articles are wastage of time until you don’t want to do it badly.
The only thing Standing between you and your goal is
The bullshit story you keep telling to yourself.

Look at these pictures ….
Three months later….
.
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.
Pic.
Source : Screenshot from a Video.
If you want to stay motivated 24×7 You should have a purpose like this in your life.
People who have problems like this in their life they are very lucky ones.
They achieve great success by staying motivated 24×7 in their life.
They are the game changers.
The most important thing is that you can not stay motivated 24×7 by listening to some one or by watching something on Internet.
So, to stay motivated 24×7, You should have a purpose in your life.
Sometimes, it comes automatically in your life or sometimes you create that purpose.
If you don't have any purpose in your life, congratulations! You are wasting your time by asking questions like this on quora or by watching some videos on Youtube and helping some one to become famous and rich.
Edit 1: I know people who have problems like this in their life go through a very painful situation, I have gone through this pain in my life(pain of losing your most loved one after putting your everything to save them and many more).
Now I see people of my age (even older than me) are crying for small things(breakups, hot climates, someone missed their birthday and many more bullshits).
But you have no idea how strong I have become because of those situations and how they have helped in achieving my goals.
I hope this helps.
《Shiv》

Arjuna :- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Krishna :- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Arjuna :- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Krishna :- Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Arjuna :– Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Krishna :- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.
Look inside.
Eyes provide sight.
Heart provides the way.

The above conversation took place between Arjuna – the pupil and Lord Krishna – the teacher.
Motivation is a short lived feeling.
Let's sprinkle in some biology.
Shall we?
Why do we need motivation? To do things that are difficult and slightly out of our reach.
We need to stretch ourselves a bit.
That's going to hurt, obviously!
If we look at the human brain, it is wired in such a way to protect ourselves from dangers.
You look at a hot substance, touch it and your body quickly moves your hand away – reflex action, we say.
It helps us to survive by keeping us away from various life threatening situations.
Similarly, when you want to do something that is going to hurt you physically or mentally or emotionally, your brain stops, takes a step back and eventually talks you out of it.

What happens when we watch a motivational video or hear words of motivation? We get motivated.
We have an urge to do something extraordinary, it doesn't hurt.
So far so good.
But once we set our first step, it hurts a bit, your brain starts to talk you out.
After a couple of failures and a lot of hard work, your body and mind reaches a point where it becomes absolutely difficult to carry on anymore.
You lose what you call – motivation.
TADA!
So let me tell you the truth, you can not stay motivated.
You can however remain focused.
And it's not motivation but unwavering focus and sheer hardwork which helps you to succeed.

You can not wait for motivation to do what you want to do.
Everything is difficult from earning a living to being remembered for something extraordinary.
Everyone wants to be remembered but most of them wait for what you call motivation.
You can wait for everything to be perfect but it never will be.
I intend to share here three of the most important things that I have learnt so far.

Your brain is a child of age 3.
It wants to play and enjoy.
It runs after swift but synthetic happiness.
It doesn't want to work.
So if you want it to work you need to have sufficient reasons.
When it tells you that what you are about to do is difficult, you present to it your reasons.
Motivation does not work here, it is a child you know.
But reasons do.
If you want to focus at something, you want to control your mind.
You can not control something you know nothing about.
We have two parts, awareness and the mind.
Awareness is the glowing ball which can float.
Your mind is a vast space with many sections in it –
anger, jealousy, greed, sadness, happiness,art, science.
Everything that has ever come across this vast space, made a section of its own.
Now, this ball of light floats over the various section and lights up that particular section.
So what happens is that this ball of light can be controlled by you.
However there are external forces which can control this too like your friends, family, your boss or social media etc.
What you need to do is control this ball of light – awareness and keep it over one particular section over an extended period of time.
Everytime this ball wanders away.
Pull it back to where you need it to be.
Practice it everyday.
If you are reading, focus on reading.
If you are eating, focus on eating, if you are watching TV, don't do anything else but watch TV.
Do just one thing at a time.
Keep the ball of light constant.
Once you want to take a decision, do it within 5 seconds.
Don't take a second more than that.
You want to study? Study.
Don't give your mind the time to talk you out of it.
Whenever we want to do something new and risky, our mind hesitates.
That's it.
That's the end of the new idea.
So next time you want to talk in the meeting about a brilliant idea, 5 seconds and take that step.
Don't give your brain the time to hesitate.
“If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence.
Determination.
The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying.
“Here comes number seventy-one!” ~ Richard M.
Devos

Here's my answer to a similar question : Viji Nambiar's answer to Somehow I lost my burning desire toward studying or motivation for my goal.
How can I regain it?

Source :
Zig Ziglar and Gary Vaynerchuk will give you a nice motivation kick in the butt as well.
Follow them!

Have you ever watched the movie Shawshank Redemption?
This is Andy Dufrense.
He was a successful banker, was arrested for the murder of his wife and her lover, and was sentenced to life imprisonment.
He knew that he was innocent and he didn’t murder his wife.
Somehow he wanted to get out of the jail.
He used a small hammer to dig through the walls of the jail.
It was like impossible for others to use that hammer to dig through that wall.
But he continued to do that.
Finally one day this happened.
He was out of the jail.
It took him nearly 20 years to dig that wall.
Every night he used to dig that wall in the hope of getting out of the jail one day.
Did he read any motivational stories? NO
Did he watch any motivational videos? NO
Was there anyone who was motivating him? NO
Then how did he keep motivating himself for almost 20 years?
The simple answer is HOPE.
Hope to breathe the air of freedom kept him motivated.
Hope to see the color of the world kept him motivated.
Above all he chose to live instead of dying inside the jail.
He had set a goal and committed towards it.
It took a lot of time but he kept pushing himself until it he achieved his goal.
He didn’t want to stop.
He knew that his place was not inside the jail.
He was thrashed by other prisoners and also from the jailer a lot.
But it didn’t stop him.
Every day he was putting some effort.
May be every day he could only achieve 0.
01% of total result, still he kept doing that.
And after almost 20 years finally he succeeded.
This is the real motivation.
He generated that motivation from his set of goals and his determination.
This rule applies for everyone.
Read 100s of motivational stories.
Watch 100s of motivational videos.
Listen to motivational stories of other successful people.
Read motivational quotes every day.
Will these things help you to get motivation?
Of course you will get motivation from all those things.
But for how long it will work?
I am not sure.
May be for few days or may be few weeks or may be 1 or 2 months.
And eventually you will forget everything.
These things do not last for long.
So what will work for ever?
No one can inspire or motivate you.
You are the only one who can actually motivate you.
Yes make yourself clear what you want in your life.
Prepare for the worst while following that path.
Set a goal.
And work for that goal until and unless you achieve that goal.
Keep only one thing in your mind if you can’t achieve what you are thriving for then your life will be hell.
And you don’t want your life to be like hell.
Sometimes you will feel low.
But it’s okay.
Not every day will be equal.
But everyday try to keep yourself improving and always learn to celebrate your little progress (This is very important, which I learned too late in my life).
PS: I am no one.
Not a successful person.
I have not achieved anything in my life.
My words have no meaning.
But I have experienced one thing in my life that unless until I don’t fight for myself, I can’t get anything and no one will do it for me.

This.
A small poem.
Which I call “self-motivation anthem”.

It’s written by myself to motivate myself.
And I read it almost every day morning to boost my morale & self-confidence, which is a key to success in today’s cut-throat competitive world.
I urge you to read it once, just once, and I am sure that you will also feel the same to boost your confidence.
डर को हटा, हिम्मत दिखा,
मुश्किल में तू, कर फेंसला।
जी-जान तू, पूरी लगा,
जीतेंगा तू, रख होंसला।
रोके अगर, कोई तुझे,
ताकत जुटा, उसको मिटा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
मर जाये भी, तो गम नहीं,
झुक जाये जो, वो हम नहीं।
है ज़िन्दगी, बस एक ही,
करना है जो, वो कर अभी।
मिल जाएगा, हर रास्ता,
सपनो को तू, रखना बड़ा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
अब वक़्त है, कुछ करने का,
कब तक यूही, तू सोचेगा।
जो ठान ले, तू जीतना,
तो संग है, तेरे खुदा।
झुक जाएगा, सारा जहाँ,
कोई नहीं, तुझसा यहां।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
By the way, this is my first poem which I wrote in the same situation.
Hope you found it meaningful.
Kindly upvote, if you feel that I should keep continue my writing… :)

HOW DO I STAY MOTIVATED? WELL THE ANSWER LIES IN A SIMPLE STORY.
FOLLOW IT AND YOU WILL BE MOTIVATED FOR REST OF YOUR LIFE.

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish.
But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades.
So the fishermen had to go further out to sea to catch their supply of fish, the fishing boats got bigger and bigger.
The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish.
If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh and they lost their fresh taste.
To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats.
They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea.
Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer.
However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen and they did not like frozen fish.
Also, the frozen fish brought a lower price.
So fishing companies installed fish tanks.
They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin.
After a little thrashing around, the fish stopped moving.
They were tired and dull, but alive.
Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference; because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste.
The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish.
So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan? To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies added a small shark to the tanks that the fish were kept in.
The shark of course eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state due to the fact that the fish are challenged.
Moral of the story:
Some of us are also living like fish that have been caught, we give in too easily, and we are not challenged.
Some of us could use a Shark in our life.
Consider new challenges and problems in your life as a shark – the challenges and problems can keep us motivated and moving forward.
Without challenges we can become complacent, find life boring, and become inactive.
Challenges in our lives can keep us moving forward.

via.
Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

Let’s start with a joke.
Motivation for guys: Who has haunted you the most in your life? You forgot “Sharma jee ka beta” (Son of Sharma jee)? If you want to beat him then raise your standard.
Motivation for girls: Would you like to marry a guy whose honeymoon destination is Jaganath Puri Temple instead of Switzerland? If No, then raise your standard.
Now this is just a joke, don’t attack me in the comment section.
Take it on a lighter note.
Otherwise it will lead you to being reported and blocked.
Sorry but I am an arrogant guy.
Now let’s get serious and practical.
No one gets motivation from motivational speeches and videos.
People just read/watch it and they are motivated for milliseconds.
Then they start wasting time on Youtube or Quora for more motivation.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on these things.
No one is born genius.
Even Albert Einstein flunked in his paper.
So stop comparing yourself with others, compete with yourself.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on overthinking.
I have always mentioned in my answers that “Time” is a very important factor.
Don’t waste it.
I know you are not motivated yet.
So story time:
7 years ago in 2010, I wanted to give a certification exam of Java 1.
6 (SCJP then, now it is called OCJP).
I purchased the coupon which was of INR 6000/- approx.
If you are not earning then 6000/- is really a huge amount.
I was in college.
That coupon was valid for 1 year.
So I started preparing, but whenever I opened that book I felt sleepy.
And I didn’t want to clear my exam using dump.
6 months had been passed, but I was not able to prepare even the first chapter.
But I had full dedication.
To get motivated I wasted millions of hours on youtube watching motivational videos.
And I almost forgot that I had purchased coupon, where on the other hand, placement had also started in my college.
Then I realized the importance of certification.
I opened my mail box where exam coupon was there, when I saw expiry date it almost gave me heart attack.
only 23 days left and preparation Zero.
Kathy Sierra’s book for SCJP Preparation, almost 20 chapters were there.
I could not have completed the 1st chapter in 11 months; but I completed that book in 11 days.
Attended too many mock tests and prepared as hard as I could.
On 23rd day, I cleared that exam with 71% where the passing marks were 67%.
Story time over,
What did you learn?
All motivational speeches and articles are wastage of time until you don’t want to do it badly.
The only thing Standing between you and your goal is
The bullshit story you keep telling to yourself.

Look at these pictures ….
Three months later….
.
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.
Pic.
Source : Screenshot from a Video.
If you want to stay motivated 24×7 You should have a purpose like this in your life.
People who have problems like this in their life they are very lucky ones.
They achieve great success by staying motivated 24×7 in their life.
They are the game changers.
The most important thing is that you can not stay motivated 24×7 by listening to some one or by watching something on Internet.
So, to stay motivated 24×7, You should have a purpose in your life.
Sometimes, it comes automatically in your life or sometimes you create that purpose.
If you don't have any purpose in your life, congratulations! You are wasting your time by asking questions like this on quora or by watching some videos on Youtube and helping some one to become famous and rich.
Edit 1: I know people who have problems like this in their life go through a very painful situation, I have gone through this pain in my life(pain of losing your most loved one after putting your everything to save them and many more).
Now I see people of my age (even older than me) are crying for small things(breakups, hot climates, someone missed their birthday and many more bullshits).
But you have no idea how strong I have become because of those situations and how they have helped in achieving my goals.
I hope this helps.
《Shiv》

Arjuna :- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Krishna :- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Arjuna :- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Krishna :- Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Arjuna :– Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Krishna :- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.
Look inside.
Eyes provide sight.
Heart provides the way.

The above conversation took place between Arjuna – the pupil and Lord Krishna – the teacher.
Motivation is a short lived feeling.
Let's sprinkle in some biology.
Shall we?
Why do we need motivation? To do things that are difficult and slightly out of our reach.
We need to stretch ourselves a bit.
That's going to hurt, obviously!
If we look at the human brain, it is wired in such a way to protect ourselves from dangers.
You look at a hot substance, touch it and your body quickly moves your hand away – reflex action, we say.
It helps us to survive by keeping us away from various life threatening situations.
Similarly, when you want to do something that is going to hurt you physically or mentally or emotionally, your brain stops, takes a step back and eventually talks you out of it.

What happens when we watch a motivational video or hear words of motivation? We get motivated.
We have an urge to do something extraordinary, it doesn't hurt.
So far so good.
But once we set our first step, it hurts a bit, your brain starts to talk you out.
After a couple of failures and a lot of hard work, your body and mind reaches a point where it becomes absolutely difficult to carry on anymore.
You lose what you call – motivation.
TADA!
So let me tell you the truth, you can not stay motivated.
You can however remain focused.
And it's not motivation but unwavering focus and sheer hardwork which helps you to succeed.

You can not wait for motivation to do what you want to do.
Everything is difficult from earning a living to being remembered for something extraordinary.
Everyone wants to be remembered but most of them wait for what you call motivation.
You can wait for everything to be perfect but it never will be.
I intend to share here three of the most important things that I have learnt so far.

Your brain is a child of age 3.
It wants to play and enjoy.
It runs after swift but synthetic happiness.
It doesn't want to work.
So if you want it to work you need to have sufficient reasons.
When it tells you that what you are about to do is difficult, you present to it your reasons.
Motivation does not work here, it is a child you know.
But reasons do.
If you want to focus at something, you want to control your mind.
You can not control something you know nothing about.
We have two parts, awareness and the mind.
Awareness is the glowing ball which can float.
Your mind is a vast space with many sections in it –
anger, jealousy, greed, sadness, happiness,art, science.
Everything that has ever come across this vast space, made a section of its own.
Now, this ball of light floats over the various section and lights up that particular section.
So what happens is that this ball of light can be controlled by you.
However there are external forces which can control this too like your friends, family, your boss or social media etc.
What you need to do is control this ball of light – awareness and keep it over one particular section over an extended period of time.
Everytime this ball wanders away.
Pull it back to where you need it to be.
Practice it everyday.
If you are reading, focus on reading.
If you are eating, focus on eating, if you are watching TV, don't do anything else but watch TV.
Do just one thing at a time.
Keep the ball of light constant.
Once you want to take a decision, do it within 5 seconds.
Don't take a second more than that.
You want to study? Study.
Don't give your mind the time to talk you out of it.
Whenever we want to do something new and risky, our mind hesitates.
That's it.
That's the end of the new idea.
So next time you want to talk in the meeting about a brilliant idea, 5 seconds and take that step.
Don't give your brain the time to hesitate.
“If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence.
Determination.
The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying.
“Here comes number seventy-one!” ~ Richard M.
Devos

Here's my answer to a similar question : Viji Nambiar's answer to Somehow I lost my burning desire toward studying or motivation for my goal.
How can I regain it?

Source :
Zig Ziglar and Gary Vaynerchuk will give you a nice motivation kick in the butt as well.
Follow them!

Have you ever watched the movie Shawshank Redemption?
This is Andy Dufrense.
He was a successful banker, was arrested for the murder of his wife and her lover, and was sentenced to life imprisonment.
He knew that he was innocent and he didn’t murder his wife.
Somehow he wanted to get out of the jail.
He used a small hammer to dig through the walls of the jail.
It was like impossible for others to use that hammer to dig through that wall.
But he continued to do that.
Finally one day this happened.
He was out of the jail.
It took him nearly 20 years to dig that wall.
Every night he used to dig that wall in the hope of getting out of the jail one day.
Did he read any motivational stories? NO
Did he watch any motivational videos? NO
Was there anyone who was motivating him? NO
Then how did he keep motivating himself for almost 20 years?
The simple answer is HOPE.
Hope to breathe the air of freedom kept him motivated.
Hope to see the color of the world kept him motivated.
Above all he chose to live instead of dying inside the jail.
He had set a goal and committed towards it.
It took a lot of time but he kept pushing himself until it he achieved his goal.
He didn’t want to stop.
He knew that his place was not inside the jail.
He was thrashed by other prisoners and also from the jailer a lot.
But it didn’t stop him.
Every day he was putting some effort.
May be every day he could only achieve 0.
01% of total result, still he kept doing that.
And after almost 20 years finally he succeeded.
This is the real motivation.
He generated that motivation from his set of goals and his determination.
This rule applies for everyone.
Read 100s of motivational stories.
Watch 100s of motivational videos.
Listen to motivational stories of other successful people.
Read motivational quotes every day.
Will these things help you to get motivation?
Of course you will get motivation from all those things.
But for how long it will work?
I am not sure.
May be for few days or may be few weeks or may be 1 or 2 months.
And eventually you will forget everything.
These things do not last for long.
So what will work for ever?
No one can inspire or motivate you.
You are the only one who can actually motivate you.
Yes make yourself clear what you want in your life.
Prepare for the worst while following that path.
Set a goal.
And work for that goal until and unless you achieve that goal.
Keep only one thing in your mind if you can’t achieve what you are thriving for then your life will be hell.
And you don’t want your life to be like hell.
Sometimes you will feel low.
But it’s okay.
Not every day will be equal.
But everyday try to keep yourself improving and always learn to celebrate your little progress (This is very important, which I learned too late in my life).
PS: I am no one.
Not a successful person.
I have not achieved anything in my life.
My words have no meaning.
But I have experienced one thing in my life that unless until I don’t fight for myself, I can’t get anything and no one will do it for me.

This.
A small poem.
Which I call “self-motivation anthem”.

It’s written by myself to motivate myself.
And I read it almost every day morning to boost my morale & self-confidence, which is a key to success in today’s cut-throat competitive world.
I urge you to read it once, just once, and I am sure that you will also feel the same to boost your confidence.
डर को हटा, हिम्मत दिखा,
मुश्किल में तू, कर फेंसला।
जी-जान तू, पूरी लगा,
जीतेंगा तू, रख होंसला।
रोके अगर, कोई तुझे,
ताकत जुटा, उसको मिटा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
मर जाये भी, तो गम नहीं,
झुक जाये जो, वो हम नहीं।
है ज़िन्दगी, बस एक ही,
करना है जो, वो कर अभी।
मिल जाएगा, हर रास्ता,
सपनो को तू, रखना बड़ा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
अब वक़्त है, कुछ करने का,
कब तक यूही, तू सोचेगा।
जो ठान ले, तू जीतना,
तो संग है, तेरे खुदा।
झुक जाएगा, सारा जहाँ,
कोई नहीं, तुझसा यहां।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
By the way, this is my first poem which I wrote in the same situation.
Hope you found it meaningful.
Kindly upvote, if you feel that I should keep continue my writing… :)

HOW DO I STAY MOTIVATED? WELL THE ANSWER LIES IN A SIMPLE STORY.
FOLLOW IT AND YOU WILL BE MOTIVATED FOR REST OF YOUR LIFE.

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish.
But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades.
So the fishermen had to go further out to sea to catch their supply of fish, the fishing boats got bigger and bigger.
The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish.
If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh and they lost their fresh taste.
To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats.
They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea.
Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer.
However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen and they did not like frozen fish.
Also, the frozen fish brought a lower price.
So fishing companies installed fish tanks.
They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin.
After a little thrashing around, the fish stopped moving.
They were tired and dull, but alive.
Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference; because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste.
The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish.
So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan? To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies added a small shark to the tanks that the fish were kept in.
The shark of course eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state due to the fact that the fish are challenged.
Moral of the story:
Some of us are also living like fish that have been caught, we give in too easily, and we are not challenged.
Some of us could use a Shark in our life.
Consider new challenges and problems in your life as a shark – the challenges and problems can keep us motivated and moving forward.
Without challenges we can become complacent, find life boring, and become inactive.
Challenges in our lives can keep us moving forward.

via.
Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

Let’s start with a joke.
Motivation for guys: Who has haunted you the most in your life? You forgot “Sharma jee ka beta” (Son of Sharma jee)? If you want to beat him then raise your standard.
Motivation for girls: Would you like to marry a guy whose honeymoon destination is Jaganath Puri Temple instead of Switzerland? If No, then raise your standard.
Now this is just a joke, don’t attack me in the comment section.
Take it on a lighter note.
Otherwise it will lead you to being reported and blocked.
Sorry but I am an arrogant guy.
Now let’s get serious and practical.
No one gets motivation from motivational speeches and videos.
People just read/watch it and they are motivated for milliseconds.
Then they start wasting time on Youtube or Quora for more motivation.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on these things.
No one is born genius.
Even Albert Einstein flunked in his paper.
So stop comparing yourself with others, compete with yourself.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on overthinking.
I have always mentioned in my answers that “Time” is a very important factor.
Don’t waste it.
I know you are not motivated yet.
So story time:
7 years ago in 2010, I wanted to give a certification exam of Java 1.
6 (SCJP then, now it is called OCJP).
I purchased the coupon which was of INR 6000/- approx.
If you are not earning then 6000/- is really a huge amount.
I was in college.
That coupon was valid for 1 year.
So I started preparing, but whenever I opened that book I felt sleepy.
And I didn’t want to clear my exam using dump.
6 months had been passed, but I was not able to prepare even the first chapter.
But I had full dedication.
To get motivated I wasted millions of hours on youtube watching motivational videos.
And I almost forgot that I had purchased coupon, where on the other hand, placement had also started in my college.
Then I realized the importance of certification.
I opened my mail box where exam coupon was there, when I saw expiry date it almost gave me heart attack.
only 23 days left and preparation Zero.
Kathy Sierra’s book for SCJP Preparation, almost 20 chapters were there.
I could not have completed the 1st chapter in 11 months; but I completed that book in 11 days.
Attended too many mock tests and prepared as hard as I could.
On 23rd day, I cleared that exam with 71% where the passing marks were 67%.
Story time over,
What did you learn?
All motivational speeches and articles are wastage of time until you don’t want to do it badly.
The only thing Standing between you and your goal is
The bullshit story you keep telling to yourself.

Arjuna :- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Krishna :- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Arjuna :- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Krishna :- Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Arjuna :– Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Krishna :- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.
Look inside.
Eyes provide sight.
Heart provides the way.

The above conversation took place between Arjuna – the pupil and Lord Krishna – the teacher.
Motivation is a short lived feeling.
Let's sprinkle in some biology.
Shall we?
Why do we need motivation? To do things that are difficult and slightly out of our reach.
We need to stretch ourselves a bit.
That's going to hurt, obviously!
If we look at the human brain, it is wired in such a way to protect ourselves from dangers.
You look at a hot substance, touch it and your body quickly moves your hand away – reflex action, we say.
It helps us to survive by keeping us away from various life threatening situations.
Similarly, when you want to do something that is going to hurt you physically or mentally or emotionally, your brain stops, takes a step back and eventually talks you out of it.

What happens when we watch a motivational video or hear words of motivation? We get motivated.
We have an urge to do something extraordinary, it doesn't hurt.
So far so good.
But once we set our first step, it hurts a bit, your brain starts to talk you out.
After a couple of failures and a lot of hard work, your body and mind reaches a point where it becomes absolutely difficult to carry on anymore.
You lose what you call – motivation.
TADA!
So let me tell you the truth, you can not stay motivated.
You can however remain focused.
And it's not motivation but unwavering focus and sheer hardwork which helps you to succeed.

You can not wait for motivation to do what you want to do.
Everything is difficult from earning a living to being remembered for something extraordinary.
Everyone wants to be remembered but most of them wait for what you call motivation.
You can wait for everything to be perfect but it never will be.
I intend to share here three of the most important things that I have learnt so far.

Your brain is a child of age 3.
It wants to play and enjoy.
It runs after swift but synthetic happiness.
It doesn't want to work.
So if you want it to work you need to have sufficient reasons.
When it tells you that what you are about to do is difficult, you present to it your reasons.
Motivation does not work here, it is a child you know.
But reasons do.
If you want to focus at something, you want to control your mind.
You can not control something you know nothing about.
We have two parts, awareness and the mind.
Awareness is the glowing ball which can float.
Your mind is a vast space with many sections in it –
anger, jealousy, greed, sadness, happiness,art, science.
Everything that has ever come across this vast space, made a section of its own.
Now, this ball of light floats over the various section and lights up that particular section.
So what happens is that this ball of light can be controlled by you.
However there are external forces which can control this too like your friends, family, your boss or social media etc.
What you need to do is control this ball of light – awareness and keep it over one particular section over an extended period of time.
Everytime this ball wanders away.
Pull it back to where you need it to be.
Practice it everyday.
If you are reading, focus on reading.
If you are eating, focus on eating, if you are watching TV, don't do anything else but watch TV.
Do just one thing at a time.
Keep the ball of light constant.
Once you want to take a decision, do it within 5 seconds.
Don't take a second more than that.
You want to study? Study.
Don't give your mind the time to talk you out of it.
Whenever we want to do something new and risky, our mind hesitates.
That's it.
That's the end of the new idea.
So next time you want to talk in the meeting about a brilliant idea, 5 seconds and take that step.
Don't give your brain the time to hesitate.
“If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence.
Determination.
The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying.
“Here comes number seventy-one!” ~ Richard M.
Devos

Here's my answer to a similar question : Viji Nambiar's answer to Somehow I lost my burning desire toward studying or motivation for my goal.
How can I regain it?

Source :
Zig Ziglar and Gary Vaynerchuk will give you a nice motivation kick in the butt as well.
Follow them!

This.
A small poem.
Which I call “self-motivation anthem”.

It’s written by myself to motivate myself.
And I read it almost every day morning to boost my morale & self-confidence, which is a key to success in today’s cut-throat competitive world.
I urge you to read it once, just once, and I am sure that you will also feel the same to boost your confidence.
डर को हटा, हिम्मत दिखा,
मुश्किल में तू, कर फेंसला।
जी-जान तू, पूरी लगा,
जीतेंगा तू, रख होंसला।
रोके अगर, कोई तुझे,
ताकत जुटा, उसको मिटा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
मर जाये भी, तो गम नहीं,
झुक जाये जो, वो हम नहीं।
है ज़िन्दगी, बस एक ही,
करना है जो, वो कर अभी।
मिल जाएगा, हर रास्ता,
सपनो को तू, रखना बड़ा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
अब वक़्त है, कुछ करने का,
कब तक यूही, तू सोचेगा।
जो ठान ले, तू जीतना,
तो संग है, तेरे खुदा।
झुक जाएगा, सारा जहाँ,
कोई नहीं, तुझसा यहां।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
By the way, this is my first poem which I wrote in the same situation.
Hope you found it meaningful.
Kindly upvote, if you feel that I should keep continue my writing… :)

Imagine that it is the holiday season and you have decided to go alone for a vacation to an exotic location you have always wanted to visit.
You decide to catch a plane and the flight duration to the location is merely 1 hour.
Since it is the holiday season, you see a large crowd of vacationers with you in the plane.
Everyone is in a jolly mood and looking forward to a great time as you are!
The atmosphere around you makes you feel so lively and you barely feel that you are travelling alone.
People are cheery and kids are enjoying.
As the flight takes off, you are already excited and just cannot wait for the short flight to end!
12 minutes into the flight
There is a loud bang.
Thud! The plane jolts heavily and you instantly realise that something is wrong.
The plane is swerving heavily now and you are convinced that it is not just turbulence.
The oxygen masks have come down as well.
Within minutes, the word spreads that the plane has suffered an explosive decompression and has lost all its hydraulics (that is, the pilots cannot control the plane’s direction).
It slowly dawns upon everyone that the plane is likely to crash.
The cries of laughter turn into cries of sorrow.
The flight attendants try their very best to keep everyone calm but people are coming to terms with the fact that these may be their very last moments of life.
You are shocked.
The pilots have not yet addressed the passengers which means that they are trying hard and there may be some hope.
But even as a passenger, you can see that plane is uncontrollable and losing altitude.
You see the people around you remove a page and start writing their farewell messages.
The gentleman next to you writes on an air sickness bag, “Machiko, please take good care of our children.

Another one writes with shivering hands, “The plane is turning around and descending rapidly.
I am grateful for the happy life I have spent until now
.

You are stunned.
Your entire life flashes in front of you.
A mere vacation flight has suddenly turned into your final moments.
You tell yourself that it is not fair.
You have your goals, dreams, friends, family….
What will happen to my family? My dear friends? My life goals? There is so much I have to achieve, so much to be said, so many places I want to visit….
.
” Slowly, you remove your notebook and pen to write your farewell message.
As tragic as this sounds, this is the true story of Navjeet Bagga.
You would surely love to check some more interesting answers here.

How do I stay motivated?

Forget about motivation entirely.

It doesn’t work.
It’s largely a scam created to sell seminar tickets and inflate people’s self esteem and state temporarily in much the same way a mind altering drug does.
This isn’t to say that the feeling of motivation is inherently negative.
It’s not.
But relying on motivation is a surefire recipe for failure.
Here’s the deal… You will NOT always feel motivated.
In fact, I’d argue you’ll only feel motivated about 20% of the time.
And if you let your feelings dictate your actions instead of allowing your vision to dictate your actions… You’re screwed.
So what should you do instead?
The answer is surprisingly simple.
1.
Get Accountable to Someone You Respect

If you want to live your best life and achieve your biggest goals, you don’t need motivation, you need accountability.
Simply put, most of us don’t value ourselves enough (at least not yet) to be able to stay disciplined over the long haul.
Without an outside force pushing us towards success, we’ll quickly backslide into our old habits and routines.
However, when you have someone such as a friend, coach, or mentor who you RESPECT (it won’t work otherwise) holding you accountable to your goals you’re much less likely to screw up.
I highly recommend that you create a daily accountability agreement with someone you respect.
If your goal is to lose 15 lbs.
agree to send your accountability partner a picture from the gym 3 days a week and a daily food journal.
You’ll be much more likely to stick to your training and diet if you know that you’ll disappoint someone by failing.
2.
Create Consequences for Inaction

The real reason that most of don’t pursue our biggest goals is because there’s no consequence for inaction.
The world won’t end if you don’t start that business, lose the weight, find your dream girl/guy, or pursue whatever else you want.
And when there is no PAIN to push us towards action, we tend to stay where we are.
You can create consequences in one of two ways
The first is pretty straightforward.
If you say you’re going to do something and don’t do it, then have an accountability agreement where you are forced to send money to a charity you hate (a lot of money to a charity you hate a LOT).
To create social consequences, I recommend posting your goal or commitment on social media for the world to see.
You’re much less likely to give up if you know that all the ass holes who bullied you in high school are watching your journey and waiting for you to fail.
When you have tangible consequences for inaction, you’ll be much more likely to actually stick to your biggest goals.
3.
Use Systems to Automate Good Habits

If you want to start a new habit, then you need to limit the amount of effort required to actually perform that habit.
For example, if your new habit is drinking 1 gallon of water a day (which makes a big impact on your energy btw), then go out every Sunday and buy 7 one-gallon jugs of water and set them on your counter.
It will be easier to actually drink enough water if you’re tracking your intake and constantly reminded of your new goal.
Or, if your goal is to save more money, setup an automatic draft to take place on the days you get paid.
This will ensure that you can’t touch the money coming in and, eventually, you won’t even notice that it’s gone.
Find ways to make sticking to habits easier and you’ll be more likely to actually implement them.
4.
Remove Barriers Standing Between You and Your Goals

In the same way that your environment can help your goals it can also hurt them.
For example, if you want to stop eating sugar but your pantry is filled with Fruit Loops and Sour Patch Kids, you’re GOING to cave in when the late night munchies hit.
Instead of relying on willpower, remove the temptation entirely.
Throw out all of your sugary foods.
Donate your television.
Block the internet on your computer so you can complete deep work.
Go to a coffee shop where you won’t be distracted.
Set up your environment so that the barriers to your goals are non existent and you’ll be far more successful in the long run.
5.
Create a Personal List of Rules that You Will Live By

The final tip is to create a personal list of rules that you will live by.
Here’s an example from former podcast guest Craig Ballantyne…
Let’s say that you’re going to a party and you don’t want to drink any alcohol.
You show up at the party and the host immediately pressures you into drinking.
They tell you that they bought your favorite type of wine and put a glass in your hand the second you walk through the door.
How likely is it that you will stick to your commitment.
It’s not right?
However, if you were pregnant and literally could NOT drink alcohol without harming your child, would you even think twice about drinking?
Of course not! Because sobriety isn’t a good idea, it’s mandatory.
This is the power of personal rules.
When you set hard and fast rules for yourself about what you WILL and WILL NOT do (make it reasonable but challenging), you make your life infinitely easier.
You’ll no longer have to think about whether or not you should do something because you have rules to guide you instead of feelings.
I know it sounds lame, but I promise, it’s effective.
Hope this helps
Stay Grounded,
Andrew
Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

Let’s start with a joke.
Motivation for guys: Who has haunted you the most in your life? You forgot “Sharma jee ka beta” (Son of Sharma jee)? If you want to beat him then raise your standard.
Motivation for girls: Would you like to marry a guy whose honeymoon destination is Jaganath Puri Temple instead of Switzerland? If No, then raise your standard.
Now this is just a joke, don’t attack me in the comment section.
Take it on a lighter note.
Otherwise it will lead you to being reported and blocked.
Sorry but I am an arrogant guy.
Now let’s get serious and practical.
No one gets motivation from motivational speeches and videos.
People just read/watch it and they are motivated for milliseconds.
Then they start wasting time on Youtube or Quora for more motivation.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on these things.
No one is born genius.
Even Albert Einstein flunked in his paper.
So stop comparing yourself with others, compete with yourself.
Lesson: Stop wasting time on overthinking.
I have always mentioned in my answers that “Time” is a very important factor.
Don’t waste it.
I know you are not motivated yet.
So story time:
7 years ago in 2010, I wanted to give a certification exam of Java 1.
6 (SCJP then, now it is called OCJP).
I purchased the coupon which was of INR 6000/- approx.
If you are not earning then 6000/- is really a huge amount.
I was in college.
That coupon was valid for 1 year.
So I started preparing, but whenever I opened that book I felt sleepy.
And I didn’t want to clear my exam using dump.
6 months had been passed, but I was not able to prepare even the first chapter.
But I had full dedication.
To get motivated I wasted millions of hours on youtube watching motivational videos.
And I almost forgot that I had purchased coupon, where on the other hand, placement had also started in my college.
Then I realized the importance of certification.
I opened my mail box where exam coupon was there, when I saw expiry date it almost gave me heart attack.
only 23 days left and preparation Zero.
Kathy Sierra’s book for SCJP Preparation, almost 20 chapters were there.
I could not have completed the 1st chapter in 11 months; but I completed that book in 11 days.
Attended too many mock tests and prepared as hard as I could.
On 23rd day, I cleared that exam with 71% where the passing marks were 67%.
Story time over,
What did you learn?
All motivational speeches and articles are wastage of time until you don’t want to do it badly.
The only thing Standing between you and your goal is
The bullshit story you keep telling to yourself.

Arjuna :- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
Krishna :- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Arjuna :- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
Krishna :- Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

Arjuna :– Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
Krishna :- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.
Look inside.
Eyes provide sight.
Heart provides the way.

The above conversation took place between Arjuna – the pupil and Lord Krishna – the teacher.
Motivation is a short lived feeling.
Let's sprinkle in some biology.
Shall we?
Why do we need motivation? To do things that are difficult and slightly out of our reach.
We need to stretch ourselves a bit.
That's going to hurt, obviously!
If we look at the human brain, it is wired in such a way to protect ourselves from dangers.
You look at a hot substance, touch it and your body quickly moves your hand away – reflex action, we say.
It helps us to survive by keeping us away from various life threatening situations.
Similarly, when you want to do something that is going to hurt you physically or mentally or emotionally, your brain stops, takes a step back and eventually talks you out of it.

What happens when we watch a motivational video or hear words of motivation? We get motivated.
We have an urge to do something extraordinary, it doesn't hurt.
So far so good.
But once we set our first step, it hurts a bit, your brain starts to talk you out.
After a couple of failures and a lot of hard work, your body and mind reaches a point where it becomes absolutely difficult to carry on anymore.
You lose what you call – motivation.
TADA!
So let me tell you the truth, you can not stay motivated.
You can however remain focused.
And it's not motivation but unwavering focus and sheer hardwork which helps you to succeed.

You can not wait for motivation to do what you want to do.
Everything is difficult from earning a living to being remembered for something extraordinary.
Everyone wants to be remembered but most of them wait for what you call motivation.
You can wait for everything to be perfect but it never will be.
I intend to share here three of the most important things that I have learnt so far.

Your brain is a child of age 3.
It wants to play and enjoy.
It runs after swift but synthetic happiness.
It doesn't want to work.
So if you want it to work you need to have sufficient reasons.
When it tells you that what you are about to do is difficult, you present to it your reasons.
Motivation does not work here, it is a child you know.
But reasons do.
If you want to focus at something, you want to control your mind.
You can not control something you know nothing about.
We have two parts, awareness and the mind.
Awareness is the glowing ball which can float.
Your mind is a vast space with many sections in it –
anger, jealousy, greed, sadness, happiness,art, science.
Everything that has ever come across this vast space, made a section of its own.
Now, this ball of light floats over the various section and lights up that particular section.
So what happens is that this ball of light can be controlled by you.
However there are external forces which can control this too like your friends, family, your boss or social media etc.
What you need to do is control this ball of light – awareness and keep it over one particular section over an extended period of time.
Everytime this ball wanders away.
Pull it back to where you need it to be.
Practice it everyday.
If you are reading, focus on reading.
If you are eating, focus on eating, if you are watching TV, don't do anything else but watch TV.
Do just one thing at a time.
Keep the ball of light constant.
Once you want to take a decision, do it within 5 seconds.
Don't take a second more than that.
You want to study? Study.
Don't give your mind the time to talk you out of it.
Whenever we want to do something new and risky, our mind hesitates.
That's it.
That's the end of the new idea.
So next time you want to talk in the meeting about a brilliant idea, 5 seconds and take that step.
Don't give your brain the time to hesitate.
“If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence.
Determination.
The will to endure to the end, to get knocked down seventy times and get up off the floor saying.
“Here comes number seventy-one!” ~ Richard M.
Devos

Here's my answer to a similar question : Viji Nambiar's answer to Somehow I lost my burning desire toward studying or motivation for my goal.
How can I regain it?

Source :
Zig Ziglar and Gary Vaynerchuk will give you a nice motivation kick in the butt as well.
Follow them!

This.
A small poem.
Which I call “self-motivation anthem”.

It’s written by myself to motivate myself.
And I read it almost every day morning to boost my morale & self-confidence, which is a key to success in today’s cut-throat competitive world.
I urge you to read it once, just once, and I am sure that you will also feel the same to boost your confidence.
डर को हटा, हिम्मत दिखा,
मुश्किल में तू, कर फेंसला।
जी-जान तू, पूरी लगा,
जीतेंगा तू, रख होंसला।
रोके अगर, कोई तुझे,
ताकत जुटा, उसको मिटा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
मर जाये भी, तो गम नहीं,
झुक जाये जो, वो हम नहीं।
है ज़िन्दगी, बस एक ही,
करना है जो, वो कर अभी।
मिल जाएगा, हर रास्ता,
सपनो को तू, रखना बड़ा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
अब वक़्त है, कुछ करने का,
कब तक यूही, तू सोचेगा।
जो ठान ले, तू जीतना,
तो संग है, तेरे खुदा।
झुक जाएगा, सारा जहाँ,
कोई नहीं, तुझसा यहां।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
By the way, this is my first poem which I wrote in the same situation.
Hope you found it meaningful.
Kindly upvote, if you feel that I should keep continue my writing… :)

Imagine that it is the holiday season and you have decided to go alone for a vacation to an exotic location you have always wanted to visit.
You decide to catch a plane and the flight duration to the location is merely 1 hour.
Since it is the holiday season, you see a large crowd of vacationers with you in the plane.
Everyone is in a jolly mood and looking forward to a great time as you are!
The atmosphere around you makes you feel so lively and you barely feel that you are travelling alone.
People are cheery and kids are enjoying.
As the flight takes off, you are already excited and just cannot wait for the short flight to end!
12 minutes into the flight
There is a loud bang.
Thud! The plane jolts heavily and you instantly realise that something is wrong.
The plane is swerving heavily now and you are convinced that it is not just turbulence.
The oxygen masks have come down as well.
Within minutes, the word spreads that the plane has suffered an explosive decompression and has lost all its hydraulics (that is, the pilots cannot control the plane’s direction).
It slowly dawns upon everyone that the plane is likely to crash.
The cries of laughter turn into cries of sorrow.
The flight attendants try their very best to keep everyone calm but people are coming to terms with the fact that these may be their very last moments of life.
You are shocked.
The pilots have not yet addressed the passengers which means that they are trying hard and there may be some hope.
But even as a passenger, you can see that plane is uncontrollable and losing altitude.
You see the people around you remove a page and start writing their farewell messages.
The gentleman next to you writes on an air sickness bag, “Machiko, please take good care of our children.

Another one writes with shivering hands, “The plane is turning around and descending rapidly.
I am grateful for the happy life I have spent until now
.

You are stunned.
Your entire life flashes in front of you.
A mere vacation flight has suddenly turned into your final moments.
You tell yourself that it is not fair.
You have your goals, dreams, friends, family….
What will happen to my family? My dear friends? My life goals? There is so much I have to achieve, so much to be said, so many places I want to visit….
.
” Slowly, you remove your notebook and pen to write your farewell message.
As tragic as this sounds, this is the true story of Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

The biggest exam of my life was only 48 hours away…
I was sitting at a desk at my girlfriend’s parent’s house with my head in my hands, sighing deeply.
I was studying for my discrete mathematics final, the last obstacle in my way of finishing my Computer Science degree.
If I failed the course, I would be held back a semester and lose the job offer that I had worked constant 70–80 hour weeks for 2 years to earn, between an internship and going to college full time.
The company said that the software engineering job was mine as long as I graduated on time.
The pressure was on.

No matter how hard I tried, my brain wouldn’t absorb the information and I couldn’t solve most of the practice problems.
I was trying to muster up the motivation to keep going, but no matter what I did I could not get myself to move past my 11th hour of studying for the day.
Suddenly, I heard sobbing coming from behind me…
I turned around and realized it was my girlfriend sitting on the bed, sobbing.
You see, she was also studying for a final exam and was not having much better luck than me.
However, her situation was far worse.
If she failed, she would lose her financial aid and have to take on crippling student loans.
On top of that, her parents are not in a good financial position and could not help her cover the remaining portion that the loans would not cover.
Even her part-time minimum wage job would not cover her expenses to go to school full time.
At that time my internship had ended as it was my final semester in college, but she still had 3 years to go.
So it was a tight few months where I had no income to support myself.
I was already swimming in student debt, and my girlfriend was covering my living expenses with her own money.
I realized all the pressure I was putting on her inadvertently by accepting her help.
She was reviewing her bills on her phone when she began to psychologically breakdown and cry.
It was at that moment that I said to myself, “I have to pass this fucking exam at all costs”.

I had to do it so I could get the job that was waiting for me after graduation and finally take the financial burden off of my girl.
You see, motivation ultimately comes down to a sense of necessity.

When you feel like your back is against the wall and you have no choice but to succeed, you will find the motivation to work your ass off and figure it out.
It was at that moment that I realized I am more motivated by taking care of others than I am taking care of myself.
For me, that was what sparked that sense of necessity in me.
Over time, I researched the topic of psychological necessity and found out that it comes to everyone differently.
Therefore, my advice to you is to find out what kind of situations cause that sense of necessity in you.
For some people, it’s competitiveness.
They want to be the best in the world at what they do to the point that it is a psychological necessity for them.
Think Kobe Bryant or Michael Jordan.
For others, it’s a sense of discovery.
Some people are driven to explore and experience everything that the world has to offer, and this is where they draw eternal motivation.
Think Amelia Earhart or Charles Darwin.
For people like myself, it’s a sense of contributing to fellow human beings that drives them to necessity.
The feeling of seeing another human being blossom and smile is what drives them to higher levels of achievement.
Think Tony Robbins or Mahatma Gandhi.
It’s not necessarily what you do that causes you to become motivated, but rather why you are doing it.
If you find out what triggers necessity in you and use that as your constant driving force, you’ll be motivated to make progress 9 times out of 10.
That’s the real secret to staying motivated.

Have you ever watched the movie Shawshank Redemption?
This is Andy Dufrense.
He was a successful banker, was arrested for the murder of his wife and her lover, and was sentenced to life imprisonment.
He knew that he was innocent and he didn’t murder his wife.
Somehow, he wanted to get out of the jail.
He used a small hammer to dig through the walls of the jail.
It was like impossible for others to use that hammer to dig through that wall.
But, he continued to do that.
Finally, one day this happened.
He was out of the jail.
It took him nearly 20 years to dig that wall.
Every night he used to dig that wall in the hope of getting out of the jail one day.
Did he read any motivational stories? NO
Did he watch any motivational videos? NO
Was there anyone who was motivating him? NO
Then, how did he keep motivating himself for almost 20 years?
The simple answer is HOPE.
Hope to breathe the air of freedom kept him motivated.
Hope to see the color of the world kept him motivated.
Above all, he chose to live instead of dying inside the jail.
He had set a goal and committed towards it.
It took a lot of time but he kept pushing himself until it he achieved his goal.
He didn’t want to stop.
He knew that his place was not inside the jail.
He was thrashed by other prisoners and also from the jailer a lot.
But, it didn’t stop him.
Every day he was putting some effort.
May be every day he could only achieve 0.
01% of total result, still he kept doing that.
And after almost 20 years finally, he succeeded.
This is the real motivation.
He generated that motivation from his set of goals and his determination.
This rule applies for everyone.
Read 100s of motivational stories.
Watch 100s of motivational videos.
Listen to motivational stories of other successful people.
Read motivational quotes every day.
Will these things help you to get motivation?
Of course you will get motivation from all those things.
But for how long it will work?
I am not sure.
May be for few days or may be few weeks or may be 1 or 2 months.
And eventually, you will forget everything.
These things do not last for long.
So what will work forever?
No one can inspire or motivate you.
You are the only one who can actually motivate you.
Yes, make yourself clear what you want in your life.
Prepare for the worst while following that path.
Set a goal.
And work for that goal until and unless you achieve that goal.
Keep only one thing in your mind if you can’t achieve what you are thriving for then your life will be hell.
And you don’t want your life to be like hell.
Sometimes you will feel low.
But it’s okay.
Not every day will be equal.
But everyday try to keep yourself improving and always learn to celebrate your little progress (This is very important, which I learned too late in my life).
PS: I am no one.
Not a successful person.
I have not achieved anything in my life.
My words have no meaning.
But I have experienced one thing in my life that unless and until I don’t fight for myself, I can’t get anything and no one will do it for me.

Motivation: “…the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.

Duh! Right?
But let me share a story with you to outline motivation at it’s most instinctual level.
Zig Ziglar and Gary Vaynerchuk will give you a nice motivation kick in the butt as well.
Follow them!

This.
A small poem.
Which I call “self-motivation anthem”.

It’s written by myself to motivate myself.
And I read it almost every day morning to boost my morale & self-confidence, which is a key to success in today’s cut-throat competitive world.
I urge you to read it once, just once, and I am sure that you will also feel the same to boost your confidence.
डर को हटा, हिम्मत दिखा,
मुश्किल में तू, कर फेंसला।
जी-जान तू, पूरी लगा,
जीतेंगा तू, रख होंसला।
रोके अगर, कोई तुझे,
ताकत जुटा, उसको मिटा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
मर जाये भी, तो गम नहीं,
झुक जाये जो, वो हम नहीं।
है ज़िन्दगी, बस एक ही,
करना है जो, वो कर अभी।
मिल जाएगा, हर रास्ता,
सपनो को तू, रखना बड़ा।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
अब वक़्त है, कुछ करने का,
कब तक यूही, तू सोचेगा।
जो ठान ले, तू जीतना,
तो संग है, तेरे खुदा।
झुक जाएगा, सारा जहाँ,
कोई नहीं, तुझसा यहां।
हर दम कदम, आगे बढ़ा,
तू शेर है, सबको दिखा॥
By the way, this is my first poem which I wrote in the same situation.
Hope you found it meaningful.
Kindly upvote, if you feel that I should keep continue my writing… :)

Imagine that it is the holiday season and you have decided to go alone for a vacation to an exotic location you have always wanted to visit.
You decide to catch a plane and the flight duration to the location is merely 1 hour.
Since it is the holiday season, you see a large crowd of vacationers with you in the plane.
Everyone is in a jolly mood and looking forward to a great time as you are!
The atmosphere around you makes you feel so lively and you barely feel that you are travelling alone.
People are cheery and kids are enjoying.
As the flight takes off, you are already excited and just cannot wait for the short flight to end!
12 minutes into the flight
There is a loud bang.
Thud! The plane jolts heavily and you instantly realise that something is wrong.
The plane is swerving heavily now and you are convinced that it is not just turbulence.
The oxygen masks have come down as well.
Within minutes, the word spreads that the plane has suffered an explosive decompression and has lost all its hydraulics (that is, the pilots cannot control the plane’s direction).
It slowly dawns upon everyone that the plane is likely to crash.
The cries of laughter turn into cries of sorrow.
The flight attendants try their very best to keep everyone calm but people are coming to terms with the fact that these may be their very last moments of life.
You are shocked.
The pilots have not yet addressed the passengers which means that they are trying hard and there may be some hope.
But even as a passenger, you can see that plane is uncontrollable and losing altitude.
You see the people around you remove a page and start writing their farewell messages.
The gentleman next to you writes on an air sickness bag, “Machiko, please take good care of our children.

Another one writes with shivering hands, “The plane is turning around and descending rapidly.
I am grateful for the happy life I have spent until now
.

You are stunned.
Your entire life flashes in front of you.
A mere vacation flight has suddenly turned into your final moments.
You tell yourself that it is not fair.
You have your goals, dreams, friends, family….
What will happen to my family? My dear friends? My life goals? There is so much I have to achieve, so much to be said, so many places I want to visit….
.
” Slowly, you remove your notebook and pen to write your farewell message.
As tragic as this sounds, this is the true story of Click here to read my most popular quora answers about life, wealth and relationships with 17+ million views.

Have you ever watched the movie Shawshank Redemption?
This is Andy Dufrense.
He was a successful banker, was arrested for the murder of his wife and her lover, and was sentenced to life imprisonment.
He knew that he was innocent and he didn’t murder his wife.
Somehow, he wanted to get out of the jail.
He used a small hammer to dig through the walls of the jail.
It was like impossible for others to use that hammer to dig through that wall.
But, he continued to do that.
Finally, one day this happened.
He was out of the jail.
It took him nearly 20 years to dig that wall.
Every night he used to dig that wall in the hope of getting out of the jail one day.
Did he read any motivational stories? NO
Did he watch any motivational videos? NO
Was there anyone who was motivating him? NO
Then, how did he keep motivating himself for almost 20 years?
The simple answer is HOPE.
Hope to breathe the air of freedom kept him motivated.
Hope to see the color of the world kept him motivated.
Above all, he chose to live instead of dying inside the jail.
He had set a goal and committed towards it.
It took a lot of time but he kept pushing himself until it he achieved his goal.
He didn’t want to stop.
He knew that his place was not inside the jail.
He was thrashed by other prisoners and also from the jailer a lot.
But, it didn’t stop him.
Every day he was putting some effort.
May be every day he could only achieve 0.
01% of total result, still he kept doing that.
And after almost 20 years finally, he succeeded.
This is the real motivation.
He generated that motivation from his set of goals and his determination.
This rule applies for everyone.
Read 100s of motivational stories.
Watch 100s of motivational videos.
Listen to motivational stories of other successful people.
Read motivational quotes every day.
Will these things help you to get motivation?
Of course you will get motivation from all those things.
But for how long it will work?
I am not sure.
May be for few days or may be few weeks or may be 1 or 2 months.
And eventually, you will forget everything.
These things do not last for long.
So what will work forever?
No one can inspire or motivate you.
You are the only one who can actually motivate you.
Yes, make yourself clear what you want in your life.
Prepare for the worst while following that path.
Set a goal.
And work for that goal until and unless you achieve that goal.
Keep only one thing in your mind if you can’t achieve what you are thriving for then your life will be hell.
And you don’t want your life to be like hell.
Sometimes you will feel low.
But it’s okay.
Not every day will be equal.
But everyday try to keep yourself improving and always learn to celebrate your little progress (This is very important, which I learned too late in my life).
PS: I am no one.
Not a successful person.
I have not achieved anything in my life.
My words have no meaning.
But I have experienced one thing in my life that unless and until I don’t fight for myself, I can’t get anything and no one will do it for me.

My little sister is a fitness freak.
So, everyday morning (I mean EVERYDAY MORNING), she wakes me up early so that we can workout together.
I will give thousands of excuses (some days more than thousands).
But she don't heed to anything.
She wins and I lose.
.
Every morning.
Even while working out, I always complain.
My hip is paining.
Oh God.
.
my tummy.
.
my lower tummy.
I can't move my hands.
She laugh at me and we both will continue working out.
If there are 30 counts, I will do only 29 but she will do 31.
One day,
She didn't wake me up, the sun did instead.
She didn't work out.
She was getting ready to office.
Why didn't you wake me up?”, I asked her.
I have prepared rice.
Have also cut the vegetables.
Go and make curry please.
I got a call from office.
Have to be there in another half an hour.
So, I am going to skip workout today.
Just for today.
But you make sure you work out before you go to office today.
Else you will get more and more fatter”
, she said.
Fast forward 1 hour, she left to office.
I did all the cooking and cleaning.
I was all alone in my home only left with a dilemma whether to work out or not.
She said I will get more fatter if I don't work out.
I was thinking about that.
Without much thinking, quickly I jumped into my working out outfit and started working out.
I did an extra count for all the exercises.
I wondered what is happening.
I wondered what happened.
!
Everyday, she motivated me.

That day, I motivated myself.

How do we stay motivated?
Surround yourself with all the possible sources of motivation.

Be it a person, or a video or a book or anything.

But, when you can't find the motivational source outside, search within.
Motivate yourself.

In my case, over thinking motivates me.

Instead of getting more depressed because of my over thinking, I motivate myself.

Motivate yourself.
Stay motivated as you are the only one who is going to stay with you forever and always.
Always and Forever.
!

Thanks for Reading.
!

Imagine that it is the holiday season and you have decided to go alone for a vacation to an exotic location you have always wanted to visit.
You decide to catch a plane and the flight duration to the location is merely 1 hour.
Since it is the holiday season, you see a large crowd of vacationers with you in the plane.
Everyone is in a jolly mood and looking forward to a great time as you are!
The atmosphere around you makes you feel so lively and you barely feel that you are travelling alone.
People are cheery and kids are enjoying.
As the flight takes off, you are already excited and just cannot wait for the short flight to end!
12 minutes into the flight
There is a loud bang.
Thud! The plane jolts heavily and you instantly realise that something is wrong.
The plane is swerving heavily now and you are convinced that it is not just turbulence.
The oxygen masks have come down as well.
Within minutes, the word spreads that the plane has suffered an explosive decompression and has lost all its hydraulics (that is, the pilots cannot control the plane’s direction).
It slowly dawns upon everyone that the plane is likely to crash.
The cries of laughter turn into cries of sorrow.
The flight attendants try their very best to keep everyone calm but people are coming to terms with the fact that these may be their very last moments of life.
You are shocked.
The pilots have not yet addressed the passengers which means that they are trying hard and there may be some hope.
But even as a passenger, you can see that plane is uncontrollable and losing altitude.
You see the people around you remove a page and start writing their farewell messages.
The gentleman next to you writes on an air sickness bag, “Machiko, please take good care of our children.

Another one writes with shivering hands, “The plane is turning around and descending rapidly.
I am grateful for the happy life I have spent until now
.

You are stunned.
Your entire life flashes in front of you.
A mere vacation flight has suddenly turned into your final moments.
You tell yourself that it is not fair.
You have your goals, dreams, friends, family….
What will happen to my family? My dear friends? My life goals? There is so much I have to achieve, so much to be said, so many places I want to visit….
.
” Slowly, you remove your notebook and pen to write your farewell message.
As tragic as this sounds, this is the true story of Your 'why' could be anything, Social Work, Sense of accomplishment, Name and Fame, Passion, Ambition, Financial Success.
2.
Set SMART goals- It is also important to have a plan of action in mind i.
e Specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound goals .
The key to accomplishing a big goal is to break down into actionable items and start completing them in a time bound manner.
Setting smaller goals would not only help us get to the bigger picture over time, but also instil a sense of achievement and satisfaction within our minds every now and then.
These small achievements can really boost a person's moral and motivate them to keep going and doing their best
Example- Instead of saying I want to lose weight, try to switch it with a SMART goal- I want to lose _ kgs in _ months through specific exercise regime and diet plan because I want to be healthy and fit
The first statement is vague whereas the 2nd one is specific, time bound with a WHY
3.
Make yourself accountable.
Keep family members or friends in loop of what you want to achieve and how you are looking to go about it.
This way you are answerable to someone and they can keep you in check if they see you slacking.
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