Daily Life: What is the most valuable skill a person can have for their entire life?
Stop complaining, stop having opinions and stop comparing.
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Practice this one habit and you will see something amazing happening
Everyone has an inner giant inside that is begging to be unleashed and disrupt this world.
Most of us are conditioned our whole lives to ignore our giant and fit inside the system.
Some are in a constant search to discover themselves.
When I hear this I feel my ears bleeding.
You are already everything you already need to be, but you need to feed the giant inside so that it can grow and start being an actual strong influence in your life and those around you.
If you ignore it, it’s going to be weak and undeveloped.
The things that are holding you back the most are opinions.
I’m not talking here about the opinion of others regarding yourself.
I’m talking about your opinions of everything around and why they are holding you back from everything greater in your life.
We can both agree this guy was pretty smart.
Having an opinion means actually having a disguised judgment.
One of the definitions of this noun inside the dictionary is: “a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.
I am so happy that 2015 ended.
Was it just me or were there too many opinions everywhere about everything? Everyone getting offended about all kinds of situations and blowing them out of proportion.
Lots of people getting offended about all these small things and then taking to social media to state their opinion.
Always in a game of “me vs.
them”, even when nobody asked them to join in the first place.
Just to make it clear we are talking here about day to day life and not situations where other people were put in danger or harmed.
There are unlimited ways in which you can achieve greatness in your life.
Every time you judge someone, you close one of those ways in which you can achieve greatness because you are conditioning your brain to shut down when you want to break a pattern that is holding you back.
Take the following scenario:
Bob is a guy that is coding all his spare time 24/7.
Sometimes he enjoys it, sometimes he doesn’t.
But he has a mission bigger than how he feels.
He wants to launch a product that might change the world one day.
He skips a lot of parties, is socially awkward, and is lonely most of the time.
Then we have Tim.
He is always about meeting new people, having crazy adventures and always has a friend he can rely on during tough times.
When Bob starts describing himself to Tim, the second one starts creating an opinion: “man this guy really doesn’t have a life”.
This simple judgment has created a condition inside Tim’s brain that if you work really hard for your goals and sacrifice leisure time it’s bad for you.
That’s why Tim always abandons things halfway through because he never actually puts in the work, he just scratches the surface.
When Bob learns about how outgoing Tim is and the big number of friends he has, he creates this opinion: “This guy goes out too much, he invests too much in personal relationships and doesn’t actually achieve anything”.
Having strong relationships is a numbers game, you need to go out there and meet people.
By having this opinion, Bob conditions himself that taking leisure time and meeting people is too much of a waste.
Bob feels lonely all the time and lacks social confidence.
But then everyone wants to have something that the other has.
One would like to be rich and successful but also outgoing and surrounded by caring people.
The moment you start judging people that work towards something you are automatically shutting down solutions that your brain might come up with in order to achieve that.
We judge 20 something-year-olds for getting married too soon and we condition our brains to say: ”tying the knot with someone else means all my freedom will vanish”.
That’s why some 30-year-olds that although have lived amazing times still are lost and cannot settle because this condition is so engraved in their nervous system.
On the other side, you have people who have been unhappily married for 20 years because they were too comfortable to see what else is out there, or find something better.
These are the same people that in their youth were always judging their friends who would be in a new relationship every 3 months.
We want to be rich.
And then we judge PewDiePie for making $7 million a year for screaming in front of a camera and posting it on YouTube.
What you are basically conditioning your brain is this: “what will my friends, colleagues think of me if I post videos online, it’s too silly, my voice is awful, it’s not a real job”.
So instantly for you, the possibility of making a career as a Youtube-er or anything related has been blocked in your brain.
You might not even have ended up doing that but starting from that train of thought might have led you to another solution that could have improved your life.
We want to be successful.
And then we judge that acquaintance we know that refused to do the 9-5 and was writing her book while being on welfare at the same time we were enjoying our new promotion.
Then when she becomes the next J.
K Rowling our value system is totally scrambled and we ask ourselves how come we have been doing the same thing for 5 years going nowhere while others have grown so much.
Every time you take to Facebook, Twitter, YouTube to express your frustration with something you are limiting yourself.
Every time you gossip or judge what someone else is doing and their motives behind it, you are limiting yourself.
Every time you judge someone you are starving your inner giant.
It is dying a little bit more inside because you are not feeding it the right way.
Every day you are creating a bigger gap between who you are and your true potential.
All great people in this world were harshly judged at some moment during their lifetime because they were consistent in their practice.
People now know their names.
Nobody remembers the haters.
Let’s play a game.
Think about the last time you judged someone or had an opinion about a certain situation.
I bet you did that in the last 24 hours.
I’ve been doing this experiment for 4 months now, the farthest I ever got was 17 days judgment free.
Examples of when I broke it was when I saw this online ad of a guy selling beard oil and I thought that it is just plain useless and stupid.
Then I learned that the business was worth $20 million.
Or that one time I saw this really pretty woman with this short bald guy.
Only to learn that they are high school sweethearts.
Start practicing nonjudgment.
Even if you fail, start again from zero.
You will see that being persistent with this habit will unlock your ways of thinking and release your giant onto the world to do amazing things.
Each time I redo it I pass my previous score and I feel like my thoughts are being directed towards a more constructive place.
After a while drop me a message bellow and let me know how your progress is going.
I wish you the best.
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A guy is roaming in the Bangkok streets late at night after his conference.
A call-girl looks at him and approaches him.
She asks him if he is interested to spend a night with her.
She looks hot and he is quite tempted.
He is alone in Bangkok and nobody would know about this.
He feels like accepting the offer.
Then he pauses for a second.
He thinks of the consequences—
…he will have to carry this memory for his lifetime, he might get disturbed by this experience when he is with his wife; his wife would have a heartache if she knows about this; their relationship would get strained; the lady could cheat him and blackmail him for money, there are chances of STDs…
He looks at her and declines the offer.
A owner is packing the sweets and savories for a catering contract.
As his workers are loading into the truck, one of them accidentally slips and the jar of moti laddus falls down on the floor and breaks.
The owner is irritated by the worker.
The whole night’s work has gone waste.
He is about to shout at him and leave the place angrily.
But he pauses and realises that there is no time left.
He thinks bout the customer and his reputation.
He keeps thinking of solutions.
He immediately telephones his friend, a sweet-shop owner, and tells him to send a jar moti ladoos.
He tells his workers to collect the jar along the way.
A student checks his final year results.
He failed in two modules and he has to extend his course.
He is scared to meet the world outside.
His parents, teachers and friends will scold him.
Some of his batchmates who envied him will laugh at him.
He wants to run away from home to somewhere or kill himself
But he pauses and thinks.
He realises that it is his fault.
He didn’t take his course seriously.
He plans to say sorry to everyone for letting them down and repeat the modules.
He also looks for online courses to improve his skill-set in the extra semester.
He also wants to try a part-time or freelance job.
If you notice all the three stories, there are three things in common—
Decisions taken during emotional highs may not be always right.
Often they are illusory thoughts that make you feel like your emotions are correct and you should trust them.
You seldom think of the consequences or results during this phase.
But if you pause and take some time to breathe, you will get a better solution to deal that situation.
That’s why they say man’s second thought is his best friend.
Emotions are like quick drug while thoughts are slow-paced.
If you take some pause, it gives enough time for the thoughts to catch-up with the emotions and understand them.
It is advisable to let your mind control the emotions for better clarity and not the other way round.
This ability to take a pause and think during every emotional high is the most valuable skill.
This pause is so powerful that it can turn your future either into a better one or the worst one.
CPR and first aid training.
This aren’t particularly office skills but life saving skills.
Which is very important.
My grandmother died of cardiac arrest.
The ambulance came late, 19 minutes after the first call was made.
By then it was too late.
She was unrescuable.
We had no idea about CPR and emergency first aid to save her life.
Turns out that it was an easy one.
First of all, learn the differences between cardiac arrest and heart attack.
Yes, its two different phenomenon.
Not to be confused with each other.
Source:- (read up here, the image is bit blurry)
If someone you know has cardiac arrest, proceed to the following steps below:-
Step 1: Call 911.
*if the person is losing consciousness, struggling to breath, and heartbeat decreases rapidly, proceed with step 2*
Step 2: Put the person on his or her back on a firm surface.
Step 3: Kneel next to the person's neck and shoulders.
*Measure heart beats/60 seconds*
Place two fingers on your radical artery-parellel tendon below your thumb.
When you feel your pulse at your wrist, count the number of beats in 15 seconds.
Multiply this number by 4 to calculate your beats a minute.
Step 4: Place the heel of one hand over the center of the person's chest, between the nipples.
Place your other hand on top of the first hand.
Keep your elbows straight and position your shoulders directly above your hands.
Step 5: Use your upper body weight (not just your arms) as you push straight down on (compress) the chest.
Push hard at a rate of 100 to 120 compressions a minute.
*measure heart rate again*
CPR ON ADULTS(TRAINED) proceed below.
Step 6: Perform 30 chest compressions, open the person's airway using the head-tilt, chin-lift maneuver, pinch the person’s nose.
Seal your mouth over their mouth and blow steadily and firmly into their mouth for about one second.
Check that their chest rises.
Give two rescue breaths.
Step 7: Continue with cycles of 30 chest compressions and two rescue breaths until they begin to recover or emergency help arrives.
Rush the person to the hospital immediately while giving them an aspirin or a nitroglycerin, which the person should chew.
On self: Make a fist with one hand.
Place your thumb of this hand below your rib cage and above your navel.
Grasp your fist with your other hand.
Press your fist into the area with a quick upward movement.
On others: Perform Heimlich Mauever
DROWNED PERSON ( )
Step 1: Open the airway.
Step 2: Sweep a couple of your fingers around in the mouth to remove any debris.
Step 3: If there’s water in the mouth, turn the person on their side or pull up their middle a bit to let it drain.
Otherwise, don’t waste any more valuable time trying to get water out.
It’s not coming.
Step 4: To open the airway, use the jaw-jut technique (because we’re assuming they could have a neck injury): place the fingers of both of your hands at the person’s jaw just below the ears, and jut the jaw forward (being careful not to move the neck).
Step 5: Place your ear close to their nose to listen for breathing.
Watch for chest movement at the same time.
It’s much easier if a second person can do this while you’re holding the neck and jaw.
If the person is not breathing,
Step 1: Check to see if the person is breathing.
Place your ear next to his mouth to listen for breathing.
Check the person's pulse.
Place your two first fingers on the wrist or neck to find a pulse.
Hold there for 10 seconds.
Step 2: If you cannot detect a pulse, begin CPR.
Place the heel of your hand in the center of the person's chest, in line with the nipples.
Make sure not to press on the ribs.
Begin chest compression by pressing down at the rate of at least 100 pulses per minute.
Step 3: Complete 30 compressions, and allow several seconds between pulses to allow the chest to rise.
Check for breathing.
If the person is not breathing, start CPR again.
If someone is having a nose bleed, your priority is to control the bleeding and keep their airway open.
Step 1: Get them to sit down (not lie down) as keeping the nose above the heart will reduce bleeding.
Step 2: Lean forward (not backwards), to make sure the blood drains out through their nose, rather than down their throat which could block their airway.
Step 4: Ask them to breathe through their mouth and pinch the soft part of the nose, taking a brief pause every ten minutes, until the bleeding stops.
Encourage them not to speak, swallow, cough, spit or sniff because this may break blood clots that may have started to form in the nose.
Get medical assistance if bleeding doesn’t stop after 20 minutes.
Bring them to the ER asap.
They need immediate medical attention.
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Protect the Person
While waiting for medical help:-
Clean and Protect
For a wound or superficial scratch from an animal bite
Covered most ailments so far.
If you have any additional info, do let me know.
I will add your contributions in this list as well.
Feel free to correct, comment, discuss and add some informations regarding first aid treatments that you might be aware.
Last week, a new student joined our Law class.
She is elder to us.
She looked simple, meek and timid.
She didn’t speak much except enquiring for the class schedule.
Being intrigued about her age, I enquired when her final attempt was due and her reply stunned all of us.
She is a CA, CS,MBA and a PHD scholar and she has taken leave from her office for her CMA preparations.
She has an untiring passion for studies and it was clearly visible from her eyes when she was answering our series of non stop questions.
Moreover, it was interesting to know that she had achieved all this with a science background in her class 12 th.
She told everything about herself with utmost transparency.
There was not a tinge of boastness in her voice.
She was calm and polite.
She became our good friend.
We usually take suggestions, discuss our queries, share our problems and seek valuable advices from her and she simply spills out her ocean of knowledge without any hesitation.
She is always ready to help us with her learning life experiences.
She too had a baggage of failures but she knows how to deal with them.
I really admire her.
One day, when I asked her, what makes her going? How did she manage in an altogether different field?
She answered, “Vinita, my brain yearns for learning new things.
I try my best to learn from everyone around me.
Infact in these few days, I have learned a lot many things from you also.
From your queries, I discovered some new points which enhanced my knowledge.
When I took this stream, I was an alien to the debit and credit rules, but I tried to learn from my teachers, batch mates and even from my juniors.
There is no harm in asking for help.
These degrees won’t define you, but how you behave, how you treat people will surely speak a lot about you.
Your nice attitude towards them will earn you respect.
You will meet a lot of people in life and trust me they have the power to teach you something.
so just remain grounded with the aim of extracting out the best from everyone around you.
Rest everything will fall in place.
More than books, I have learned from their life stories”.
Being kind and humble is the most valuable quality a person can have for their entire life.
“Humility is the mother of all virtues, purity, charity, and obedience.
It is in being humble that our love becomes real, devoted and ardent.
If you are humble, nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are”.
Thanks 4 A2A.
Successful people always have a mindset of SELF-CONFIDENCE.
When you are confident in yourself, nothing is impossible.
The term confidence and success is often related? Why?
Successful people don’t hit the jackpot right away.
No, they try a lot.
Success is often a matter of averages, the more things you try, the more likely it is that you will achieve.
The arguably greatest Basketball player ever was once cut from his high school team.
Did he give up? No, he ended up conquering the NBA.
As Jordan puts it, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career.
I have lost almost 300 games.
On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed.
I have failed over and over and over again in my life.
And that is why I succeed.
When you have enough self-confidence, you are willing to try almost everything.
You believe in your own abilities to succeed and therefore you are not afraid to take action.
Nothing can stop you!
THIS IS WHY SELF-CONFIDENCE LEADS TOO SUCCESS
#1: The Drive to Start Things – Confident people believe in their own abilities and therefore can easily start thing.
They are not afraid about what other people are going to think of them, they just do it!
#2: They know how to say “NO” – If you want to succeed in this world, you need to manage you’re time correctly.
There is so much to do.
Confident people know what they want.
When something is not bringing them closer to their goals, they say “NO”.
#3: They have the courage too say “YES” – When confident people sees a opportunity they are not shy to say “YES”.
They do not miss golden chances because they are shy.
People with a low amount of confidence pass on great opportunities (e.
a promotion) because they don’t see themselves as worthy of the task.
#4: Confidence Beats Fear – When people are confident, they believe in themselves more than they believe their fears.
They have no trouble facing there fears because they know they are going to beat it.
#5: Confident People Shoots for the Moon – Shoot for the moon.
“Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.
Confident people live by this saying.
They enjoy a challenge, and are constantly trying to reach their wildest dreams.
Lack of confidence leads to weaker goals and mediocre results.
#6: Confident People Doesn’t Care What Other People Think of Them
Why does other people opinions matter? Confident people doesn’t care about this.
They have their eyes set on their goals.
And doesn’t let the opinion of others stop them!
HOW TO BE SELF CONFIDENT
#1: Challenge Yourself.
Face your fears! Make sure that you are doing one thing that challenges you, EVERY DAY!
Real growth comes from pushing your limits.
Imagine if you are pushing your limit every day.
You will fuc*ing conquer.
By doing this you’ll feel strong, free and ultra-confident.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.
You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror.
I can take the next thing that comes along.
' – Eleanor Roosevelt.
#2: Stand up straight!
Confidence is in the way you move.
You are giving a speech.
Many people you respect are there to listen.
To gain confidence in this scenario, make sure you are having a proud posture, chest held high, no-one can beat you.
Be physically confident.
In this scenario, you will glow confidence.
Not only will you feel it, but the audience will respect you more.
The next time you are at a place where you need to show confidence for either yourself or the people around you, do this.
Also, try this out.
Pick out your own hero who’s oozing confidence.
Be THAT person when you go into your confident pose.
This is mine:
#3: Don’t put everything on the outcome
Confidence is all about putting the outcome aside.
Remember that everything is a lesson and you will gain confidence.
Maybe your presentation didn’t go as well as planned? No harm done.
You’ve just learned how to do it better next time.
If you let the outcome be everything you will never manage to silence the voice of doubt inside your mind.
You will always criticize yourself.
Instead of saying.
“Nice, you are one step further in your process, the next time I will do it even better!”
Focus on doing your best and be confident in every situation.
This will take you so much further.
#4: Stop comparing yourself!
Nothing destroys your confidence more than comparing yourself to others.
This is especially true in the time we are living in.
Social media brings forth the wonderful opportunity to judge and destroy yourself?
When we go on applications on Instagram we see examples of people who have made it, people who look perfect.
Lack of confidence comes from a gap where you see yourself and where you think you should be.
Social media is the best tool for exposing this gap and destroy your confidence.
#5: Start Running.
The physiological effects after finishing a hard run will leave you feeling amazing.
Countless studies have shown that regular running can boost not only your sense of well-being but can increase your self-esteem too.
Start your and kick ass.
It’s a wrap!
Please, don’t let this be another one of those answers that you “just read”.
Decide to take action.
Challenge yourself and be SELF CONFIDENT!
Let me know how it goes.
See you on Quora soon!
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Working at a car dealership, you get to meet some unique people.
Although I'm not a salesman, seeing the impact they have on people and their ability to turn unfavorable situations to greatly benefit themselves is impressive.
Great salesman are approachable and astute, and can make a killing selling cars if they harness all the ideal attributes.
Without certain traits, most car salesman are unable to proficiently excel at their jobs.
If they don't hit a certain number, they might as well kiss their asses goodbye.
My job at the dealership is insignificant and undesirable, I'm at the bottom of the food chain and I don't mind it.
Two weeks ago they hired a guy to temporarily fill my position.
He is very charismatic and easy to talk to.
Just being there over a week, it seems like he worked there his whole life.
The mechanics love him, and they don't like anyone.
Taking me a while for the mechanics to start liking me, this guy walks in, only working two weeks and talks to the mechanics as if he knew them his whole life.
The dealership loves him.
Erupting in a rapturous mood when he walks by, people simply enjoy talking to him.
Managers are infamously known for being assholes at car dealerships, but yet, they love him and find him incredibly entertaining and congenial.
Best yet, he gets promoted and leaps over directly to sales, quadrupling my salary.
You don't have to be smart, in fact, this guy doesn't possess any remarkable intelligence, only great charisma and outstanding benevolence.
He is what you call a "people pleaser".
In the business world, being a fanatical people person will allow you to quickly move up positions.
Surpassing those who lack social attributes.
Charisma in a way can be taught, but to an extent.
Working with various salesman, you can tell which ones make a killing, and which ones die.
The ones who thrive have natural ability that cannot be taught.
They always say the right things at the right time.
Charisma can take you a long way.
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GOD BLESS & may all your dreams come true :)